I find that there is a lot of controversy in the idea of a soul mate. Some people truly believe in them, others think it's a silly idea. I guess what I want to know is, what do you think?
Are we truly destined for just one person? Do we have a couple soul mates? Does it differ from person to person? Might one person not have a soul mate? Do people have love soul mates and friend soul mates? I mean, how do we define soul mate anyway?
I know some people think it's silly, something people made up to make them feel better when they're either single and trying to be optimistic or when they're with someone and they want that comfort that it's all "meant to be."
I do believe that everything happens for a reason (as I've mentioned about a thousand times so far in this blog), and that includes who we're with. I guess you could call it a soul mate, but I think that a soul mate is someone who connects with your soul. They know you better than you know yourself. They say things that can offend you so that you can take the right path and grow, they are there for us when we truly mess up, they can look into your eyes and see through you, they are ever-loving. Now, I think this can be true for friends and lovers. I think we can have soul mate friends. I know I have two.
This whole question was brought up for me because I am in the middle of reading Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. She has a passage on soul mates and I want to copy it here:
"Your problem is that you don't understand what that word [soul mate] means. People think that a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that's holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it."
Do you agree with this? I mean, I think that some people can live with their soul mates forever and still uncover their issues and help them to grow. That's just my opinion?
What do you think of soul mates? Don't be afraid to be honest.